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Joseph D'Souza - Saturday, August 16, 2014

Waters of Reflection from QuestUniquE and The ROQUE Model

Waters of Reflection

I was just fascinated that even flowing water

Reflects its environment like a mirror

Perhaps reflections are always there

-          Rather, it was I that did not notice.

Or was it because I was in other places

That I did not know to look?

 

And is this not how we perceive

Or take in information

Even become energized?

Sometimes we are lost within or perhaps mostly

Then also engrossed in the sensorial

And what we experience ends up being how and where

We live from!

 

Then we notice things

The elements and components of our world

Sometimes the whole world and sometimes just parts of it!

 

We relate with our heart

We relate with our head

Sometimes both and sometimes

With one more than the other

 

And then we are

Who we are to ourselves

And even others may see us as we are

Or not!

And so it is with waters of reflection

-          Not just beautiful nature

For everything we experience through our senses

We modify with how we relate

When we relate, what we relate, where we relate

And why we relate even when we

Are just being and not particularly seeking.

 

Perhaps not just calming waters

Perhaps all around us

Live metaphors for how we live

-          And how we grow and become

And how we take and give

Of our very essence

As our own play into our world.

 

Joseph D’Souza

www.questunique.com.au


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ROQUE as inspired by TED.com

Joseph D'Souza - Tuesday, July 08, 2014

 In this blog I wish to stretch your mind. I wish to test your patience. I wish to shift your paradigms. And I wish for you some transformational insights!

Warning: This is not a light browse! This is not a short post!

I am by now an avid fan of TED.com and indeed use the rich diversity of speakers, content and knowledge across so many experiences that a TED talk is my equivalent for regular and consistent inspiration.

 The ROQUE coaching and discovery process is being used is more scenarios than could ever be imagined. And that should not be surprising. Every individual is unique. Our experiences are our own even when shared. What we project and how to illumine what we see, do and get, is one of the joys of the human experience.

Take a topic, subject, problem, issue. With ROQUE, we then start to look at R=REALITY Now:

R = REALITY Now:

Firstly, can you empty your mind so that there is no 'baggage'? And trust me, with practise, you can bring this state to bear in a millisecond!  Here is an inspiring short clip by Andy Puddicombe.


 From this awareness in the REALITY Now stage of ROQUE, we can now see emerging a range of Options.

 O = OPTIONS:

We are able to consciously see a range of directions, options, paths. Even before evaluating we should stop that conditioned sense of rush we all seem to be evolved to. If you think you have seen all the options available. Be assured you have not. Shift your perspectives, change your paradigms. Leverage others' perspectives. And discover more options.

Now here is a challenge for you. Is option a choice? Ofcourse no. Choice implies a decision. But we do confuse both. See what Barry Schwartz says in his "Paradox of choice talk"!.

OK. Now we have OPTIONS before us and again with ROQUE, we now need to make a decision. With The ROQUE process, we prefer to use the term QUEST instead of goal or choice or indeed decision albeit all are relevant with a key proviso.

Q = QUEST : 

QUEST within the ROQUE process is about an activity between the Head i.e. our rational process and our Heart i.e our emotional responses. It is not that the head and heart need to be in balance. What we are looking for is a congruence between the head and the heart. Where there is no conflict such as: I think I should do this because, yet I don't feel good about it! This latter tension is not conducive to good decisions unless you also have a strategy to placating the cause of the tension. With congruency of head and heart, there is alignment. There is momentum. There is and energy that is positive and even magnanimous. 

See how Sheena Iyengar suggests how businesses (and others) can improve the experience of choosing.

 

 

U = UNIQUE Needs: 

Having decided upon a QUEST, ROQUE suggests we need to identify what our UNIQUE Needs are which must be satisfied or put into place even before we can embark upon our Quest. If for example our Quest is to bake a cake, we need to know not only what ingredients we must have, but also the equipment, know-how, and our 'end in mind'. What is our intended fulfillment requiring us to include? 

Here is a challenging tangent perspective from Dan Gilbert talking about why we make bad decisions;

 

 

E = EXECUTION:

Now ROQUE takes us to the actions we need to implement in order to make the Quest real. If you have to struggle to identify the actions, to create your SMART goals, to build your execution plan, then somewhere, you must have missed a turn in your QUEST stage. What ROQUE suggests, is that the right Quest inspires the identification of the UNIQUE Needs which in turn inform the EXECUTION process.

 Here Simon Sinek elegantly reveals some secrets!

 

 

Did you have a quest of your own advanced by this contribution?

Feel free to comment below or email me at:  coach@questunique.com.au


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